The Heart of Father’s Day
On Friday I walked into daycare to pick up our youngest and I found the familiar site of child made items perfectly aligned along a shelf. As I walked down the line of Father’s Day gifts to find the one she made for Bryan, I couldn’t help but think back to this same task 10 years ago. Back to when our son was younger and I was raising him alone. There was never a need to slowly walk along the blue and green cards with themes of grilling or golf – I could point his out from the door.
A lone gift filled with pink, purple, flowers and hearts. The Father’s Day gift that was in fact made for a mom. The teachers would take care to make a special gift with him so that he didn’t feel left out while the other kids created their projects. He would proudly proclaim that his was special; that his teachers told him so. That while the rest of the kids had to make identical crafts, he got to make something different.
Our life is different now. Even long before the adoption was finalized, Bryan stepped into the role of dad and accepted Jameson as his own. He took great care from day one to treat both his daughter and Jameson the same, and now as we celebrate Father’s Day all three kids share his heart.
While most will say that dads matter, my perspective is a bit different after seeing both sides. Dads matter in more way than many can see – in ways that those who have always had a dad take for granted. Dads matter in everything from the smallest details in our children’s days to the larger development of their hearts.
Father’s Day might be a simple Hallmark holiday to some, but for me I see it as a day to truly cherish the gifts that good dads bring. The love, the support, the safety and the protection that our little boys and girls crave and model themselves after.
Today, I hope that Bryan knows how truly special he is to all of us. I never take for granted having him as my partner in these crazy childrearing days. And today, I hope both my dad and dad-in-law know the impact they have made in all of our lives as well.
Check out my latest Psych Central post: Dads, You Matter.